A Lesson in Permission-giving: Or what happened when I didn’t want to masturbate

[You’re in for a treat, dear readers – this one has quite a bit of self disclosure.] People who know me, know that I LOVE masturbation. My blog readers may have even sensed a theme — it’s a topic I’ve written a lot about. I even have a list of my favorite things.  If it’s possible … Continue reading

Online Dating

Let’s face it. It’s 2013. If by now you personally have not been involved in online dating, chances are pretty dang high that you know someone who has. So, what’s the deal with online dating? In our busy lives we still yearn and long for a person to person connection. But it can be intimidating … Continue reading

Open Relationships

There are so many different kinds of  Open Relationships.  Polyamory. Swingers. Soft swap. Threesomes. Foursomes. Group Sex. Polygyny. Polyandry. Polyfidelity. Non-monogamy. I’m talking about consensual non-monogamy here, NOT having sex with someone other than the partner you are monogamous with (i.e. cheating). So what are all those words I wrote up above? Here is some general information … Continue reading

Who Are You Sexually?

This question came to me during my first class back at the Institute this trimester. It was during a conversation I had in my class of one (yes, small class). John Bilorusky, President at the Western Institute for Social Research – WISR, was my professor for a class on research methods. Since I am not … Continue reading

Masturbation May Should Be Every Day!

Self-Pleasuring

Masturbation has an interesting history. I won’t go into all the nitty-gritty sex-negative messages that have been perpetuated throughout time. Despite the amount of  mis-information that’s out there about masturbation, as a society we have come a long way. In the late 19th- and early 20th-centuries, self-pleasure was something insane people did. Much of the … Continue reading

Making Sex More Fun: Toys

In an effort to share some of what I learned and observed while I was at the  Quad S Western Region conference this April (Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality), I wanted to talk about what can spice up sex. This post is going to be about Sex Toys. There were a couple sponsors … Continue reading

Consent (Teens and BDSM)

Yes Means Yes

    Several events both recently and not so recently have led me to this topic. I’ll start with the not so recent and you’ll forgive me, but I won’t go into too much detail, for the simple facts that: a) this was at least a decade ago for me, b) it really wasn’t that big … Continue reading

NRE

New Relationship Energy is a phrase commonly heard in polyamorous relationships. It is a concept I first heard about a few years ago on the Sex is Fun podcast (episodes 191 and 192, for those who are interested). NRE is a bubbly kind of feeling that can happen when two (or more) people experience something new … Continue reading